(sorry, another vent) .. So,when it comes to love, what to do, and where to go from here. I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. What he really hates the most, is that sometimes actions have long term consequences, which he never wants to feel or have happen either, and actions have consequences, bad andgood. Any time I am not at 100% to run the household, restock the coffee, cook meals, put the kids to bed, do the laundry, etc. Which to that, I feel he used me to have someone to marry and to love HIM, but he knew he wasn't going to return that. To live content with small means; to be worthy, not respectable; to listen to stars and birds, babes and sages, with open heart; to study hard; to think quietly, act frankly, talk gently, this is my symphony. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). I am very organized so I planned for thenext 20 days. I can understand mentioning it to him and maybe even asking, but begging?? But god forbid he do anything out of his way for me. Can totally relate to your post. All I had to do was pay for the meal prep, and pick up the meals. Submitted by sickandtired on Fri, 12/11/2020 - 08:44. I am still me; I am unchanged to you. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. I hope he gets the help he needs! What should I do? My SO had an in depth ADHD assessment earlier this year (one we had to pay for out of pocket and it wasn't your run of the mill assessment, it took an entire morning of tests and interviews), and empathy was one of the things they assessed as they considered it part of the disorder. This marriage has changed me, first for the worst and now finally for the better. And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. My experience with ADD people is they are takers. Perhaps he would consider reading the free treatment e-book (look in the treatment guide for it) and also consider adding some 'attend time' to his schedule. Anyway, I digress. and my child will throw up or have a fever. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Your partner sounds as if he's not good at transitions (i.e. It's not even his fault because stupid idiot "women" like you let men like him treat you like crap. You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. All big red flags. Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. Hinting at your desires will most likely push her further away. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. Thank her sincerely for doing these things to you inspite of her 'reservations'. You should absolutely not expect to be treated as a child by your wife, and don't put your wife in the roll of your mother. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? I have an illness. He just gets on his computer. I'm curious to see a female's perspective on this, especially someone who has been married to see if this holds true. And again, why ask me to come back to him if he still can't DO that? He made me pay that year for leaving. Press J to jump to the feed. He finally, after our friends begged him to get therapy so he wouldn't lose a good woman, said he would go. When I'm sick, yes. He doesn't seem to catch up or even see it. No, that's not normal in a loving marriage. The unfinished projects and dreams. But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. WebMaybe he's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bothered when he's sick. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). I do believe he is plagued internally by his demons and if I can't show compassion and let go of resentment, I would surely hate him for marrying me. Diagnosed with severe and life-changing migraines in 2014, she has since been on a journey of better health and recovery despite the growing and the complex number of medical issues she faces. Not doing anything about it will make you resentful. And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife becomes so upset that she cries and the husbands response is indifference, anger, frustration, or denial. The former provides you both with a structure that can work (does for many couples.) Not flu/COVID/serious illness. Now I'm going to get sick! That is when he finally paid attention to me and accepted that I was sick. Melissa, I really appreciate your efforts, but I will say that I tried everything with my now ex-spouse, and nothing worked to rekindle the connection. Recently I was knocked down by a Yes, I agree, and am in the same place. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to I brought up water, Gatorade, and saltines, got him anti nausea meds, and told him to call or text if he needed me, but I was taking care of the kids who were puking Also, you aren't following proper stomach bug protocol Google it, first start with ice or very small sips of water. Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. There's a few things that are scaring him, and he is right to be concerned. We had been friends for years and talked here and there. He is so sick and depressed. We're still at the beginning of our diagnostic and therapeutic journey. The whole thing is just very, very HARD. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. I see we are out of aspirin and ask him if he knows of any in the house. It is obvious that ADD people rarely change for any measurable amount of time. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while On this basis, there must have been a time when she did care for you, but since it has happened so many times, she has no more 'empathy' to give in these situations. Your wife is negative because she doesn't know how to deal with her angry/upset/self-loathing emotions so she projects them onto 'faults' that you have. How can she stop? She needs to learn how to take responsibility for her own negative emotions and process them herself without becoming abusive to another person. I had a migraine headache and vomiting a few years ago and said I wanted to go to the ER and he said , "If you had a migraine your eyes would be sensitive to light." And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. Its a cultural thing as a whole. My husband didn't help me with anything around the house. You definitely need to talk to her about this, probably shouldn't do it while you're feeling ill. It wont solvefor the dishonesty (and just found a new credit card). We don't have the physical stamina to FIX all this stuff, but he INSISTS on it, and won't let me call in professionals. I guess what i m saying is although the strategy may have a great chance of success for some, there isn't any upside in my case. Sign #11: Doesnt talk about the future. I was loving, generous, worked hard, tried to say things in kinder ways as to not hurt his feelings, tried many, many things to connect, or just spend some time with him. I cam home ( after working out for an hour feeling worse ) and told my mom and she took my temperature and it was like 104 degrees!! It always boils down to me getting sick on purpose! If you need help, I will cook dinner". How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? WebYES, YOU CAN! It wasnt until recently that I found my voice. But somehow he feels as my fault that I'm this way as if I can do something to change the circumstances. yuck. My husband responded to me that if I went on medical leave I would have to stop seeing my doctor because he wouldn't pay for it anymore. But if I need or expect something maybe not so much because it wont register as now/love but as someone upset whether the upsetedness is valid or not. It was a high pressure job in sales and recruiting, with a manager who later got in trouble for harrassingstaff and being absolutely unprofessional. Then, why the * are they looking for a life partner in the first place?. (not a good sign). Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. He threatened to sue me and the doctor because the kid had to go temporarily on multiple antibiotics to help knock down the infections. Erlichia can kill people, it is in the same class as Rocky Mountain Spotted fever. it's not the same as OCD. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Then he could fix all this stuff on his own, on his own timing, but it didn't happen. I left work early and took them to hospital, tended them there, brought them home and generally took care of as much as I could to keep them comfortable and on the way to mending throughout. They'll let me be to recuperate, since they know it's nasty. Join hosts Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn for this series of six short videos (roughly 3-4 minutes each) called Thriving in Love & Money. Theyll offer helpful tips, informed by years of research and based on their new book, to help you and your spouse explore the underlying issues that lead to financial conflict and consider healthy ways to Iv been with my partner only 2 years yet everytime hes sick he bails out to go with his mates or even when I'm not sick, that or either on his game all day. But in the end, that doesn't matter either. I grew up in a house where you were basically quarantined when sick. Once shes mad, the first step to resolving it is by me apologizing. I'm glad that's 'not in your nature'except that it is. a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read, Tell me about it..My husband lacks sympathy for me and the kids, His entertainment comes before anything else, They take as much as they can for as long as we allow it, Yes Dear Dede sadly we do know of that you speak:), https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd. I would blame him for screwing up mine. I, ME, MINE!! Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. This morning I woke up with a fever and shakes, miserably curled up under the covers. And I take. 2. He love(s) the one he is with..as in.."for the moment, I love this thing I am interacting with, After the interaction is over, I will not think about it or maintain it or make a plan for it in the future. Set up a way for it to not be inconsistent. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. | 2 yrs ago I was in a serious car accident. "The unexpected" threatens their sense of fragile balance. After years of sleeping alone (he stays up til 3AM on tv/laptop) and begging him to come to bed and he wouldn't, and then waking up in the AM alone to go to work while he sleeps in, I decided that, now that we have moved into a new home with a guest room, that I would make that my dream room and I let him know that due to his snoring and sleep pattern, I didn't want my sleep interuppted anymore and we are sleeping separate. How many people have you slept with in your life?? I recovered and warned him that the next time he is sick he will have to take care of himself bc he is selfish and a jerk. They ruin too many peoples lives. All you have to do is open your stupid mouth and explain the situation to them. Its good to have a healthy balance. I had to step down onto the patio from the back door. How does someone even DO that? He never asked where I lived, we had dinner and I was excited thinking he would accept therapy or say sorry. When my wife is sick, I tend to wait on her. (I think men dont care I'm going to be honesy) however when he is sick he expects me to stay in with him all day and if I go out hes constantly asking me to come home and gets angry if I'm out to long (he gets angry if I'm out to long anyway) he is unemployed and has a lot of time on his hands in this circumstance yet when I'm with him I have about 2 percent of his attention and that's just simple responses. Become a Mighty contributorhere. The only family Im in contact with is my 91-year-old mother who lives an hour away. That's just You are not important. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. Just gotta get used to it! When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. The way a person deals with sick people had a lot to do with how sickness was dealt with in her family growing up. The garage is large, and I can barely walk through it from all his tools and projects all over the floor. Duped again. You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im home alone, the household chores I cant do, not because you dont care about my illness, but because you care about me. The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. I am the best thing he has ever had. Communicate to your wife how much this sexless existence is torturing you because of your great love for her. My ex didn't have ADHD. My husband had the worst tantrum in front of a third person. He is Always the "Victim" and Everything is Always My Fault! Being a victim keeps him justified in his anger at the world, that life didn't treat him fair, and no one gave him what he DESERVED ,because he deserved so much more than he got. Thanks a lot!" But don't be the version of youthat is currentlyin his face. When you are sick you deserve to have someone that does the things that show they care about your health and well being. Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. Being Married to Someone Who Doesn't Care. I decided then to leave. An epiphany. Remind her of how bad you feel and how much you'd appreciate her help while you recover. Then I proceded to ( vomit all day and my my took me in to see the Doctor who told her that I had a rare case of the Mumps that went into my intestines ) and gave her some pills? I was so ill from stress and he never checked on me. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. And what Ive learned is, thats exactly why Im with you. His brother was paranoid-schizophrenic, diagnosed at 18 and died a few years ago from drug addiction. Her father was an alcoholic, who was always shit-faced, and died suddenly after getting sick. Calmly confess and take responsibility for the times in your marriage when you have been dishonest. It gets to you after a while I feel lonely most of the day I get really depressed he wants me to clean up all the time when he goes (figues) but I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety it's hard for me to get up to doing simple tasks it's even harder when I have to do it on my own. BTW, when ourkids are sick he is mean and heartless. No one has ever taken a day off when I was sick . He still ignored andhung by the pool by himself. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. After all, when he is around me he can make me miserable by extension of his bad mood. It is not only me he has no sympathy for, it is his children as well. And that was just with a scratchy throat. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. Im the one who is on disability and hasnt worked in two years. Confirmed. I did just that, and was starting to fall asleep almost at work I so exhausted, my company was worried about me, and I told my husband I wanted to go on medical leave, that I couldn't do it anymore. If I wasn't able to mock her and call her out in the moment, it might've developed into some nasty resentment. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. It seems to b I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. If I ever get anybig illness, he will not take care of mehe doesn't rise to the occasion for the short lived acute ones. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. It's "his" problem, and it's mostly a "focus" problem he thinks. He/she is merciless. There is no reason under the son a man or woman should be second to anyone when it comes to survival in health, shelter or love period. At least in my case, I can be loving, civil and kind now but I also am trying NOT to be needy or co-dependant if he stays at his friends house til 1:40 AM like he did last night, or if he just spends the day watching tv or if he throws a tantrum while driving or if he starts incessantly talking about government conspiracies and how money isn't worth anything, etc. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? And here is my confession, for I fall short of a Marvel superhero. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. I m not saying it s right, but I am not putting in the effort for someone who lies to my face about everything. She was diagnosed with a mood disorder and anxiety in 2008. He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. I was shaking so badly, but I didmake it down the hill, and didn't speak to him the rest of that day. I occasionally get teary about it, my feelings were so hurt. When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. In the letter I explained that he needed to get help and I was running to save myself. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. My cough doesnt produce anything other than an exsmokers clean up. When he is having a great day, like this past Saturday, my efforts were worth it but I won't pretend that he is fixed. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. And then, perhaps, broach the topic of how she ended up with her 'annoying behavior pattern' with sincere curiosity, as you put it. I think that it's true. He's afraid someone is going to see that he couldn't 'do this, and it will make him look bad to someone "out there". in Child and Adolescent Development and then an M.A. You know all the important things. People with ADHD don't have to miss movies because they lose track of timethey just have to learn toset alarms. I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. "We can't afford it", but we can't afford to NOT call in someone. (And he sees this as a good thing)half done, with walls half painted. Run!!! is already like this, it will only get worse. It sucks but thats what it is. I actually yelled at him, told him how selfish he is. Iris is also an Invisible Illness Warrior. Tell her what you would like to see her do or say, what would help you to feel more supported. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. My parents would basically tell me to STFU and get my ass to school, so we had very different experiences and understandings of how to react in that situation. (We do imitate our parents). It wasnt until recently that I found an outlet for all of this junk in my head. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. I was too kind, wanting to help TOO much, and didn't set boundaries. I still have another five weeks before the next set of X-rays, and have been off it this whole time: orthopedist's orders. He wrote me a letter saying how he fell in love in college, and she left him, and he didn't want to feel "that hurt" again, so he basically shut "that part" of himself down, so that he wouldn't FEEL that. Love. Hewas an abusive, narcissistic Asshole. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to give me a kiss and I tell him that he shouldn't kiss me because I'm getting a scratchy throat and most likely a cold and his response isn't one of sympathy, instead it's "Greeeeeeat! I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. Yes my H also has ADHD, but it's not ADHD that causes his horrible behaviors, particularly when I'm sick/injured. Some men are selfish creatures. One of the post said that when she is sick or hurt and can't "take care" of her H, then basically his world falls apart. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. We all experience them. Talk to her and use 'I need" statements. In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. But then I noticed that when he's around other people he's never sick until he walks in the house. He refused to tend to me as I was going into shock. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. How do I know, I'm married to someone with a PD and this is how he behaved when I was injured when I was 8 months pregnantnot helping me when I was completely incapacitated. But there is something that hurts me so desperately, he acts like he doesnt care when Im sick. Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. Like so many of the other posts, writing this post and sharing my feelings is very therapeutic. This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. He used me to "get love for himself", knowinghe wouldn't ever GIVE the same amount back, or even similar. Born with a congenital heart condition, she survived two open heart surgeries before age 4. I do this sometimes. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. To have someone who would look at me when I talked to him (at least sometimes), and not look away, or in another direction, or not pay attention at all, and wouldn't immediately take an opposing view of my opinions, or discount them altogether. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. Newly wed so some things are quite new. Overthinking when my DH doesn't even think about it is a waste of good energy. And, to feel loved in return, you need to be sexual with each other. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I'm not sure about what's being discussed about men. It was my truck. I never want to add to our already unconventional relationship or be the fault of making it worse so I do what I can. You can find even more stories on our Home page. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. Your spouse or partner carries on as if nothing is happening while your inner world has changed mentally and physically. I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. I would not be happy with the scenario you outlined. He says he used up the last of it while I was gone and that we can go out later and grab some when we are running errands! I take and I take, and then I take some more. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. I am not an illness. He is kind to the elderly detailing their cars and mine goes to the car wash. I am sorry for your situation. Effective at making you get better because it was boring as shit. And that doctor he threatened to sue likely saved his son's life. Clearly you know it's a problem and you're still in that relationship and most likely going to have kids with him yourself and then act like oh no poor me I still got married and had kids with the guy that's treated me like crap since day one. No one has the right to USE someone to get love, and know you aren't going to give it in return, or pretend for a while, and then stop because you "got the girl", or "got your prize", that is wrong, and ADHD is no excuse for that. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. 9. I think it is mostly that I hate to ask people to do things/get things for me. 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